The Conflict Wheel
How can I use the conflict wheel to help me?
Goal:
Goal:
There is more than one way to solve a conflict. A conflict wheel can also be called a problem-solving wheel. Look at this conflict wheel. It can give you different ideas to help you solve a problem.
Conflict wheel with different ways to solve a conflict. They are as follows:
- Help a friend.
- Wait and cool off
- Walk away and let it go.
- Tell them to stop
- Go to another activity.
- Rock, Paper, Scissors, go.
- Use an I Message.
- Apologize.
- Talk it out.
Now you can make your own conflict wheel. Cut a circle out of construction paper, or use a paper plate. Have someone help you write or draw pictures of things you can do when you have a conflict. You may think of other ideas that you can add to your wheel.
When you have a conflict, you can go to your wheel to choose an action to use to help you solve the problem. Let’s look at some different ways you can solve a conflict. Click the arrow to look at each slide.
Walk away and let it go. This will give you and the other person time to think.
Tell them to stop. The person may not even realize what they’re doing.
Go to another activity. Thinking about the new activity will put your mind on something else. You may even forget what the conflict was!
Rock, paper, scissors, go. Do this with the other person to practice taking turns.
Use an “I” message. This is when you tell someone how you feel. You would say, “I feel sad when you call me names.” Or you could say, “I feel happy when you share your toys with me.”
Apologize. If you think you did something wrong, tell someone you’re sorry.
Talk it out. Talking about the conflict with the other person will help you find a solution.
Wait and cool off. This is always a good tool. Count to 10. Sing the alphabet in your head. Take some quiet time to think. Calm down before you talk to someone about a conflict.
Question
Look at the conflict wheel. What is another way you can solve a conflict?
You can help a friend. Always be ready to help a friend with a problem.